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"The Hug" by Lauren Goldman

The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal, the new book by Vikki Stark, M.S.W. will help you understand what happened in your life and learn how to use this crisis as an opportunity for a better future!

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Reactions from women who have read the book:

Thank you so much for this wonderful book! I experienced a whole range of emotions as I read along sometimes tears, sometimes giggles but a whole lot of head nodding and "Yep, that was him all right!" as I turned the pages. Your book and your website have provided invaluable comfort and support in my journey towards recovery from this life altering event.

Jean from Philadelphia.

I sat down and devoured your book - read it so fast with lots of highlights in yellow! I'm sure I will reread it many times. Lying in bed, out jumped your belief about brain tumour and abduction by aliens. I burst into hysterical laughter until I collapsed in hysterical tears. Those were my exact same thoughts.

Carmella from San Diego.

I received your book and couldn't put it down until I finished it. It is an absolutely outstanding book that has so eloquently portrayed almost to a tee everything that I've experienced in the last several months.

Linda from Sydney, Australia.

PLEASE NOTE: This website is dedicated to helping women who were abandoned by their husbands but it is important to state that wives also abandon their marriages without prior notice, although not at the same frequency. It is also important to highlight the fact that not all men who choose to end their marriage do so in this way.

What we need most of all to recover from Wife Abandonment Syndrome is each other!

Here you get the chance to tell your story to other women who really know what you are talking about. The goal of this "town square" is to provide support and encourage healing for yourself and others. Please feel free to write about your thoughts and experience, but most of all, let's all share the tricks we used to "make it through the night" in the early days, and the wisdom we gained that helped us "bounce back better" when we were further along the road to healing. There's strength in numbers - let's give each other that strength.

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Wednesday, April 30,2008

One Step Closer to Finality

Well 6pm came and went tonight. I had been worried sick for days about him coming with a group of his college students to move the rest of his personal things. It was sad to see a caravan of 20 somethings stupidly following a professor they admire and have no idea of the gravity of what he is doing. The days prior I had been really worried but I can not believe how well it went. I must admit that I got the chance to make some nice choice remarks that I have been stuffing all month and it felt good. I am also amazed that I do not feel sad at all right now but I am glad the piles of stuff that has been packed and blocking my hallway and living room for weeks is gone and I no longer have to dread this moment. It was hard waiting on it to come because each step of progress is another step towards the reality that the last 17 years is starting to look more like a dream that I am waking from. Weird. Sigh...He could not even look me in the eye and it sort of is humerous to me and tells me again what a coward he is. Not only has he been lying for no telling how long about not being happy with me...he is still lying about being brave and competent lol. I threw in all the joint pictures of us from special occasions and the large Wedding Album too. Think that there will be a day when he starts having regrets and then he can explore everything and see again even more clearly what he has flushed down the toilet. Thanks for letting me ramble all, I could keep going but will not let you suffer that much:)

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Hope you get a good night's rest, Lynley. I know what you mean about that feeling like all that time together with him was a dream. I get that feeling too. A lifetime gone in a blink of an eye.

Thursday, May 01,2008


You are too good, I wouldn't of given him the photo's he will probably just throw them out anyhow. They have no remorse. My husband wanted some individual PERSONAL ITEMS. wELL HE GOT THEM, he said thanks, and I said NO thank you I been trying to get rid of that mouse infested hockey equipment that has been wet and rewet for the passed 27 freaken years..... HAVE A NICE DAY.

Thursday, February 25,2010


After reading another post, I just want to say that I survived cancer and then my husband found a younger woman and left me.

And the saying get a life, really upsets me as I fought to live, and had many lonely days afraid, and this pain from him doing this, is worse than the worry I went through in my cancer.

And I feel he wants a healthy, whole woman.
And the BLANK he is with she knows I was sick and survived,and really, how could she, what kind of person does this?

I don't understand, that is all I can say.

Friday, January 25,2013


Truth is the men that abandon their wives most likely have NPD (narcissist personality disorder). Also, research narcissist abuse syndrome. Time to blow the lid off the real issue. These cowards and nothing but that.

It's not you, it's them.

Friday, April 08,2016

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